11 Things to Remember When You Think You’re Not Good Enough

Some days turn out better or worse than others – that’s a fact. But ultimately, the way we feel about our life and ourselves has the biggest impact on the outcome of each day. Happiness and confidence can create outcomes that exceed our expectations, like a continual ray of sunshine even on a cloudy day.

But, when we are down on ourselves, especially when we think we are not good enough, life can easily and quickly take a turn for the worse. We can unexpectedly find ourselves entrenched in a deep, dark hole. When we repeatedly allow ourselves feel this way for days, weeks or even months at a time, it can have detrimental effects on our happiness, health, relationships, and careers.

If you want something...

If you want something you never had,
you have to do something you've never done.

From: The Mind Unleashed

We all have times when life feels hard...

We all have times when life feels hard;
when we're frustrated and tired and just want to hide away.
If that's you right now, don't worry
- every caterpillar has to rest to become a butterfly
and you'll soon find your wings again.
In the mean time, let your Angels wrap you in theirs.
You are so loved.
-Anna Taylor

From: Lessons Learned in Life

Because You Feel Sad Doesn't Mean You Have to Be Sad

"Further complicating our ability to put our feelings in front of the witness, we believe that our emotions are fundamental to who we are. We think that if we feel sad, we are sad, if we feel unworthy, we are unworthy, and so on. The combination of our belief in the truth of our feelings along with our propensity to identify with them, makes emotion the hardest aspect of the mind to become mindful of, the trickiest play of the mind to get behind and see clearly.

In order to be mindful of our emotions, some part of us must have the ability to watch our feelings, be with our feelings, and feel for them… all without actually becoming them. Can we relate with our sadness without feeling entirely sad, be with our sense of unworthiness from a place that doesn’t share the unworthiness? This would imply that some part of us could remain separate from and larger than even our strongest emotions."

Read more: http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/inviting-monkey-tea/201402/because-you-feel-sad-doesnt-mean-you-have-be-sad

The most important person you’ll ever meet

“People think a soul mate is your perfect fit,
and that’s what everyone wants.
But a true soul mate is a mirror,
the person who shows you everything that is holding you back,
the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.
A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet
because they tear down your walls and smack you awake.”
  Elizabeth Gilbert, Eat, Pray, Love

From: Lesson Learned in Life

5 Things You Should Know About Letting Go

by: Marc Chernoff

Even after you let go, the past is still part of who you are. Every one of us lives in the present and makes choices based on some part of the past. This fact is simply unavoidable. You are only able to read these words right now because of your past. Your brain relates past experiences (or learned knowledge) to these words.

All forms of learning rely on your ability to continually reference the past. If you think about it, many wise decisions you have made leading to this very moment were created through recalling what did or did not work in the past. You are only able to do what you can now because of what you learned. For instance, you only recognize a friend when she walks into the room because you reference a past connection with her. In this way, you are using the past effectively.

10 Reasons to Give More Hugs

1. Hugging induces oxytocin in the body. 
2. Hugging builds stronger bonds with the people you see everyday. 
3. Hugging lowers stress! 
4. Hugging lowers blood pressure.  
5. Hugging is a reciprocal good deed. 
6. Hugging feels incredible!
7. Hugging can turn a bad mood upside down. 
8. Hugging reconnects the mind with the body. 
9. Hugging more makes us better huggers! 
10. Hugging cultivates patience. 

Read more: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-6586/10-Reasons-to-Give-More-Hugs.html

3 Ways to Feel Good When Things Seem Bad

By Lisa Esile

“It isn’t what happens to us that causes us to suffer; it’s what we say to ourselves about what happens.” ~Pema Chodron

Here are 3 insights that helped during those “you’ve got to be freaking kidding me” times:

1. There’s a healing side to pain.

When a challenging event happens—a break-up, a sickness, or having your leopard pink car seat covers stolen—the human mind, being what it is, thinks this is why you feel badly.

You hear it all the time: “Oh, you poor thing for losing your car seat covers.” Or, “She’s such a rat to do this to you.”

The truth is, it’s your perception of the situation that makes you feel bad. This means that no matter how crumpled-in and dysfunctional you feel, you’re not. It’s just your thoughts that are a bit wonky. And actually, your thoughts on this were always wonky; the situation just exposed them.

When things fall apart...

When things fall apart,
consider the possibility that life knocked it down on purpose.
Not to bully you, or to punish you,
but to prompt you to build something
that better suits your personality and your purpose.

From: Love and Inspiration

Sometimes you need to look at life...

Sometimes you need to look at life from a different perspective

From: Love and Inspiration

Stress Management

An inspiring story.

~ ~ ~

A young lady confidently walked around the room while leading and explaining stress management to an audience; with a raised glass of water, and everyone knew she was going to ask the ultimate question, 'half empty or half full?'..... She fooled them all... "How heavy is this glass of water?” she inquired with a smile.

Answers called out ranged from 8 oz. to 20 oz.

She replied, "The absolute weight doesn't matter. It depends on how long I hold it. If I hold it for a minute, that's not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I'll have an ache in my right arm. If I hold it for a day, you'll have to call an ambulance. In each case it's the same weight, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes." She continued, "and that's the way it is with stress. If we carry our burdens all the time, sooner or later, as the burden becomes increasingly heavy, we won't be able to carry on."

If you are lucky enough...

If you are lucky enough to be different from everyone else..
Don't change.

 


















Post by The Mind Unleashed.

4 Good Reminders When You’ve Had a Bad Day

by: Angel Chernoff

There will be times when it seems like everything that could possibly go wrong is going wrong.  And you might feel like you will be stuck in this rut forever, but you won’t.  When you feel like quitting, remember that sometimes things have to go very wrong before they can be right.  Sometimes you have to go through the worst, to arrive at your best.

Yes, life is tough, but you are tougher.  Find the strength to laugh every day.  Find the courage to feel different, yet beautiful.  Find it in your heart to make others smile too.  Don’t stress over things you can’t change.  Live simply.  Love generously.  Speak truthfully.  Work diligently.  And even if you fall short, keep going.  Keep growing.

1. YOU are okay. You are just a little stronger now.
2. You are far more capable than you think.
3. The struggle is the path, and it leads to better days.
4. Taking the next step is always worth it.

Read the transcript: http://www.marcandangel.com/2014/04/09/4-good-reminders-when-youve-had-a-bad-day/

9 Things to Stop Doing During Hard Times

by: Marc Chernoff

The most beautiful smiles are often the ones that once struggled through the tears. 

Regardless of what you’re struggling with – a major tragedy or a minor personal battle – it’s time to STOP…

1. Hiding from the truth.
2. Gripping tight to the fantasy of a pain-free life.
3. Revisiting the past over and over in your mind.
4. Holding on to who you were before the storm.
5. “Worrying” or “thinking” a situation into something worse than it is.
6. Acting like it’s not OK to smile.
7. Giving in and giving up as soon as the going gets tough.
8. Wanting to have all the answers.
9. Obsessing yourself with negative news.

Read more: http://www.marcandangel.com/2014/04/06/9-things-to-stop-doing-during-hard-times/

10 Things to Remember When You Feel Lost and Alone

by: Marc Chernoff

“Being alone never felt right.  Sometimes it felt good, but it never felt right.”
―Charles Bukowski

Here are some things to keep in mind when you feel lost and alone:

1. You are not alone in being alone.
2. Sometimes when you’re lonely, you need to be alone. 
3. You have to be a little lost first to find what you’re looking for. 
4. It’s all about accepting the reality of what is. 
5. In every situation, YOU choose your attitude.

Don't base your life's decisions...

Don't base your life's decisions on the advice of people
who don't have to live with the result.

From: Love and Inspiration

Breathe...

“Breathe.
All of the times you felt this anxious and this overwhelmed.
All of the times you felt this level of pain.
And remind yourself how each time, you made it through.
Life has thrown so much at you,
and despite how difficult things have been,
you’ve survived.
Breathe and trust that you can survive this too.
Trust that this struggle is part of the process.
And trust that as long as you don’t give up and keep pushing forward,
no matter how hopeless things seem, you will make it.”
Daniell Keopke

From: Lessons Learned in Life

An Interview with God

by James J. Lachard (Jim Brown) 

“Come in,” God said. “So you would like to interview me?”

“If You have the time,”  I said.

God smiled. “My time is eternity. That’s enough time to do everything.
              What questions do you have in mind?”

“What surprises you most about mankind?”

“Many things.”
 “That they get bored of being children, are in a rush to grow up,
               and then long to be children again.          
That they lose their health to make money and then lose their
               money to restore health.

How to Get Out of Your Own Way and Let Your Life Shine

By Gail Brenner

“I wish I could show you, when you are lonely or in darkness, the astonishing light of your own being.” ~Hafiz of Shiraz

I have been on a quest to be happy for as long as I can remember.
I thought I had looked everywhere. I tried relationships, work, adventure travels, and a life filled with friends and activity, but still I felt anxious. I was disenchanted with life.....  

Finding Freedom

Getting out of the way means becoming very familiar with your inner world. You discover what you do that makes you suffer so you can choose peace instead.

Amazingly, you realize that you can press pause in any moment and step back from the momentum of old, recycled habits. 

The place where your greatest frustration lives...

The place where your greatest frustration lives
is the place where your biggest opportunity lies.

From: Robin Sharma